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What is Heyder
Unlike other social experiences; HeyDer brings together small groups of people for curated dinners — not because they share similar interest, but because each person at the table was specifically looking for someone like the others.
Curated Groups
Built on a award winning theory and a behavioral framework.
Designed for bonding
An experience built around sharing and belonging.
Dinner & more..
A post dinner side quest to make the night even more memorable.
Auckland & Wellington
Every Tuesday. We will share you the details.
How it works
Three steps. One great dinner.
Sign Up
Take a quiz to help us understand you and the type of people you wish to meet. We handle the venue, the menu and find a compatible group who wanted to meet someone like you.
5 minutes
Show Up
Head to your assigned restaurant. Settle in and meet your people — it’s okay to be nervous. Remember the best part is knowing they chose to be there for a purpose, just like you.
Every Tuesday
Socialise
Expect fun, laughs and stories over a curated menu. Take part in a simple ritual that helps you connect — then head over to a completely different experience and meet other HeyDer members from the night.
Rituals + rewards
Our Purpose
Why we do this.
"Built for the ones who've tried everything else."
You’ve been to social events. You’ve downloaded the apps. You’ve had the conversations that went nowhere and left wondering what’s missing.
What’s missing isn’t opportunity. It’s a space where you can be around people who make you feel like you belong. A space to have meaningful conversations and build genuine connections without the pressure to perform.
HeyDer exists to make that possible. To find you the right people — not just more people.
Our Features
Lasting bonds are created in a setting
that makes you feel like you belong.
Matching science
HeyDer uses a behavioral framework to curate a right group so that matches are intentional and build an experience around people who would complement your personality.
Designed for bonding
The act of sharing food breaks barriers fast. You naturally pass dishes and start conversations without forced icebreakers or awkward introductions.
Eat, Play, Connect
Every HeyDer dinner continues with a totally different experience. Think board games, bowling, snookers, live music, stand up comedy & much more. We don’t just plan you a dinner we also plan you a side-quest with your new friends.
Customer Reviews
Feedback from valued clients.
OMG! how did I end up talking for 3 hours to people I haven't met before. This wasn't what I was expecting when I signed up for this event. The set menu for our table was yummy and the company was perfect for some deep conversations and banter. Still thinking about it as I type. Can't wait to do this again.
The staff asked us to leave as the restaurant was closing.That says a lot about how this experience felt. Everyone was being real and the conversations went deep. The food and drinks at the venue were well organised. 2nd June dinner booked already. Much needed refresher.
What an amazing concept of meeting new people over amazing cuisine. I am sold and would highly recommend people give this a try. It's that social experiment that I am supportive of and in a world where we are connected online yet lonelier than ever, HeyDer might be the most human thing you do all year.
A fun way to make new friends
Where food is shared along with stories, laughs and real connections.
FAQ
Frequently asked questions.
When you book with us we do the matching, allocate the restaurant and plan the menu. All you need to do is show up and have fun. Food and drinks you pay at the venue.
Adults 18+ who want to meet new people & make new friends; regardless of age, gender, orientation or background.
A $9 booking fee to grab your spot.
Simply take the personality quiz and let us do the magic. Choose which night suits you and we will let you know once we have found a group for you.
We don't match you with people like you. We match you with people who would enjoy you. A short quiz helps us understand who you are and what you are seeking. Our matching framework does the rest
It's like an AfterParty where you can continue connecting with your new mates and other HeyDer members from the night over fun activities like bowling, snookers, comedy, board games, movie night etc. You will find out about the activity a day prior.
Cancellations should be notified at least 48hrs before the booking time. Refunds usually take 2-3 working days.
Our restaurant partners cater to allergen needs and are informed of any dietary requirements. We'll share the menu a day prior. Get in touch with us or the restaurant for any specific info.
Every Tuesday at 7 pm across different venues in Auckland. Choose your preferred date and we'll confirm you the venue and group details.
Priced as per your budget — $45–$50 or $50-$55. Whatever you choose, you are meant to have a good time.
Not mandatory-but highly recommend. We give you a space to keep the night going with even more HeyDer member from the night. Some events are free to attend while some are at a special member price which you pay directly at the venue.